"Birthing Your Dreams And Visions
"Where there is no vision, the people perish....—Proverbs 29:18 KJV
It is important to have dreams and visions for our lives. We atrophy without something to reach for. God has created us to have goals. We need to look beyond where we are.
Our dreams and visions are simply hope for a better tomorrow. When God plants a seed of something in our heart, at that point it is a possibility, but not a "positively". That seed must be cared for properly.
Quite often the Lord attempts to place something in our heart, and we fail to conceive that He really means what He is saying. We must remember that we cannot get pregnant with a dream or a vision unless we are able to conceive. Practically speaking, that refers to our thoughts.
We must believe a thing to be possible. We must be able to conceive it in our thoughts. If we do get past the conception, there is still the pregnancy to go through. There is much planning and preparation before the birth. Satan does everything he can to get us to abort our dreams and visions.
God has a vision for your life, and He desires to plant it in your heart.
Don't have a "spiritual abortion." Give birth to all that God has placed within you.
"I will not give up the dreams and visions God has placed within my heart. I am determined to see them through to the end."
When Death Calls, What Do You Say?
We want to know the right thing to say when someone dies, but what can sound like the right thing to us does not at all sound like the right thing to the person who is grieving the death of a loved one.
When we choose our words for how they are heard, we can bring comfort to those grieving a death.
Here is a quick check list to help you judge whether the words you’re about to say are likely to bring comfort, or only more sorrow.
Am I minimizing the person’s experience?
The warning signs are phrases such as, ‘At least,’ ‘It’s okay because,’ or, ‘This isn’t as bad as.’
Am I blaming the deceased for dying?
This is hurtful even, or perhaps especially, when the death is from suicide or as the result of intentional risk-taking or recklessness on the part of the deceased. Sentences that begin with, ‘If only he hadn’t,’ or ‘Everybody knows (fill in the blank) is dangerous,’ blame the deceased for dying. You may be right, but now is not the time.
Am I saying I know God’s plans?
Even if you’re absolutely certain the two of you share the same religious views and beliefs, you haven’t suddenly acquired omnipotent knowledge. ‘God needed an angel,’ or ‘You’re being tested,’ or, ‘You weren’t meant to be (or have),’ are phrases that put you in the role of God.
Am I holding this person responsible for the death?
Sentences that begin with, ‘If only you had,’ or ‘You shouldn’t have,’ or ‘Why didn’t you,’ place you as judge and jury, not as comforter.
Am I proscribing how this person should feel or act?
You must be,’ or ‘You can’t,’ or ‘Now you can’ are phrases that attempt to redirect the person’s attention from his present emotions and activities.
We’ve all heard others make statements like these, and we’ve probably spoken some of them ourselves. I know I have. I cringe to think about the times my ignorance harmed someone. It’s when we are on the receiving end, when we are grieving or are very close to someone who is, that we truly understand how our words are interpreted. I can only hope that those I harmed with my words were smart enough to recognize that what they were hearing was not the truth, but nonsense spoken in ignorance.
Life Is Honest, Open and True: When we choose to live a life that is honest, open and true, we choose to always do the best we can with the knowledge we have. No matter what we may have said in the past, we did so based on the knowledge we had at the time. New knowledge obligates us to act, and to speak, in new ways. The next time you want to comfort someone grieving the death of a loved one, stay clear of these phrases and your words will be more likely to bring comfort than sorrow.
I can’t imagine what you’re going through.
Unless you’ve suffered the same loss or been given the same diagnosis, you haven’t got a clue. Acknowledging this truth opens the door for acknowledging the tragedy.
I know this is a painful time.
And I’m not just referring to the morphine drip with the handy self-administer feature.
You don’t have to be brave today.
I can accept your feelings just as they are right now.
How are you feeling?
If you’re feeling terrible, please tell me, I can hear it. If you’re feeling positive, please tell me, and let’s celebrate it.
I’m here to listen to you.
Let me give support to you. I am not here to trade tragic stories or engage in one-upmanship about how my life or the life of someone I know is worse than yours.