Use What You've Got!
As we set and reach for new goals, it can be easy to overlook the fact that we often have everything we need to get what we want -- if only we will maximize our opportunities and resources. For example, in business, companies can become so consumed with attracting new customers that they fail to grow their business with the customers they already have. In the process, they can lose their existing clients in an effort to gain new ones. In personal relationships, you can become so focused on what a loved one is 'missing' that you forget to cherish all that they have to offer. In a job search, you can become so focused on internet searches and want ads, that you forget to do the one thing that leads to most jobs -- talk about what you want to the people you already know.
Next time you find yourself busy looking for solutions, don't forget the many resources that exist in your life right now. Whether you are looking for a job, growing a business, or strengthening a relationship, it is critical to maximize the potential of each opportunity and resource that you are blessed to have.
Consider these ideas:
1. Pick an opportunity. Any opportunity.
Make of list of opportunities that exist for you, but you have yet to take advantage of. Which ones fall in line with your purpose, desires and goals? Is it time to move forward on one of these opportunities? If so, make a plan, set a deadline, and go for it! Often, life feels stagnant not because you don't have anything to do, but because you have not made a decision to do something new. Keep yourself constantly challenged by exploring the opportunities that will cause you to stretch beyond your comfort zone.
2. Expect fear, but don't let it stop you.
Once you decide to move forward on a goal, it is normal to feel a sense of fear. Expect to feel the fear, but keep moving forward. When you do what you need to do in spite of fear, the feeling of fear subsides. You build your 'courage muscles' when you take advantage of opportunities despite a fear of failure, uncertainty or the unknown.
3. Stop dreaming and start doing.
The difference between those who spend their lives dreaming and those who spend their lives achieving their dreams, is that one has learned to stop dreaming and start doing. Focusing too much on what the future will bring can keep you from doing the things that will bring your desired future into existence. By maximizing your present moments on the journey rather than dreaming about the destination, your daily life becomes richer and more enjoyable. You also arrive at your destination much more quickly. What is it time to stop dreaming about? What step do you need to take today?
The Power to Change Your Life
The Power to Change Your Life is in the Choices You make.
This is perhaps the most powerful of lessons. Better choices create better circumstances. It is not what happens to you that most impacts your life. It is how you respond. Your choices create your future.
What kind of future are you creating with the choices you are making? You can choose to enjoy your life or to be miserable. You can choose to be flexible or keep hitting a brick wall in your relationships. You can choose to pursue your dreams or keep making excuses for why you can’t achieve them.
In our natural state we learned many ways to cope with life or defend ourselves which were not always mentally and emotionally healthy. Psychologist refer to these unhealthy patterns of living as defense mechanisms. For instance many people have learned to lie in order to protect themselves.
Common Defense Mechanism:
- Fantasy (escaping from the real world)
- Denial (conscious or subconscious refusal to face the truth)
- Emotional Insulation (withdrawing to avoid rejection)
- Displacement (taking out frustration on others)
- Projection (blaming others)
- Rationalization (making excuses for poor behavior)
- Acting Out (performing an extreme behavior in order to express thoughts or feelings)
- Repression (the unconscious blocking of unacceptable thoughts, feelings and impulses)
- Displacement (redirecting of thoughts feelings and impulses directed at one person or object, but taken out upon another person or object)
The choice is yours!
Strategies for Good Mental Health Wellness
According to Sydney Youngerman-Cole, RN, BSN, RNC and Katy E. Magee, MA, "Many mental health problems begin when physical stress or emotional stress triggers chemical changes in your brain. The goal of treatment and prevention is to reduce stress and restore normal chemical processes in your brain." Coping skills are methods a person uses to deal with stressful situations. Obtaining and maintaining good coping skills does take practice. However utilizing these skills becomes easier over time. Most importantly, good coping skills make for good mental health wellness.
Some good coping skills include:
- Meditation and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing deep breathing techniques, the relaxation response, or progressive muscle relaxation are ways to help reduce stress and induce relaxation.
- Time to Yourself: It is important to set aside time every day to allow yourself to relax and escape the stress of life. Give yourself a private, mini vacation from everything going on around you.
- Physical Activity: Moving around and getting the heart rate up causes the body to release endorphins (the body's feel good hormones). Exercising provides some stress relief.
- Reading: Escape from reality completely by reading. Reading can help you to de-stress by taking your mind off everyday life.
- Friendship: Having friends who are willing to listen and support one through good and bad times is essential.
- Humor: Adding humor to a stressful situation can help to lighten the mood.
- Hobbies: Having creative outlets such as listening to music, drawing or gardening are great ways to relax and relieve everyday stress.
- Spirituality Actively believing in a higher power or divine being can have many health benefits. In recent studies, it has been found that people who pray have better mental health than those who do not.
- Pets: Taking care of a pet helps distract the mind from stressful thoughts. Studies Show that pets are a calming influence in people's lives.
- SleepingThe human body needs a chance to rest and repair itself after a long and stressful day. Sleeping gives the body this chance so that it is ready to perform another day.
- Nutrition Eating foods that are good for you not only improve your physical health, but they play a major role in your mental health. When your body gets the proper nutrients, it is better able to function in every capacity.